There was a rather overdramatised drama including me recently, I shall elaborate.
I had a barbecue and was aware that a few people wouldn't be able to make it as they were visiting family or had other plans. One of those people was Curltop. I was under the impression he was off visiting family or something and had accepted that.
When he rang Marshal at the barbecue and said that he needed to meet up, I was a little confused, but chalked it down the fact that he must have gone earlier and got home already. I got annoyed because when suggested he should come to the barbecue he said "I don't want to come to the fucking barbecue." (This has all been said before, repeating so this post makes sense) but okay, I was only a little annoyed - he had done this before after all.
So then when I got into school and he says that he was actually home all day and actually he just 'couldn't be bothered' to come I really got annoyed. I had taken time out of my day to organise it, and it was all his friends there - so why not come? So fears that he may hate me rose up again. Then at the lockers the next day P.Diddy tells me that yes, he does hate me. And also he has the impression that I hate him. WHAT? I do not hate him, I'm too busy trying to get him to like me or fight for his goddamn approval which I have never seemed to gain. So I asked Fungi to have a word and went home and cried, like I do.
Then the next day I was told that apparently he only hates me because he thinks I hate him.
1. I don't hate him.
2. What would that achieve? "You hate me? Okay, I hate you" Yeah, that fixes a friendship.
3. Why has he not spoken to me about this, in fact, not spoken to me at all in the past week?
So I confronted him. Upset, angry, confused. I wasn't the nicest person about it I will admit.
Then Cheshire says "Oh you could have been nicer about that" and Goldilocks says "Oh, you should just apologise." Why can nobody see that I am not in the wrong here?
You cannot say that if you thought a so called friend had the impression you hated them, and therefore hated you back, you would not be a nice person about it!
Gees. Rant over people.
hmm difficult situation. im not going to try and tell you what to do because usually people get mad if i do that but i will tell you something i have learnt through all the times i have lost friends (i can be quite spiteful and competitive so actually that is a lot) . Sometimes you have to fight and sometimes you have to let go. if you feel like there is absolutely 0 fault on your side then by all means fight. but if there is doubt or you just really don't want to fight then sometimes, even if you have done nothing wrong the word 'sorry' can make all the difference. I hope you guys work it out. your new friend x
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